Valentine’s Day is coming, but is Painful Sex preventing your excitement?

Just like every year at this time, Valentine’s Day is heading our way and with it comes the anticipation of romance, passion, and creative lovemaking. Unfortunately, for some those anticipatory feelings can also be a reminder that sex can be painful, and Valentine’s Day may be a holiday to dread. But that doesn’t have to be the case! The Intimate Wellness Shop can help with some simple ways to improve your Valentine’s Day celebration. 


Painful Sex

While your heart loves Valentine’s Day and all that it stands for, your body can experience a different reaction, especially if sex hurts.

There are several factors that can lead to dyspareunia, or painful sex. Being practicing gynecologists, we hear our fair share of patient concerns. Dyspareunia is the medical term for painful intercourse and can be described as reoccurring or consistent genital pain that accompanies sexual activity.

According to Harvard Health, vaginal dryness is the most common cause of dyspareunia, however endometriosis can also be a factor. Endometriosis occurs when tissue from the uterine lining grows abnormally inside the pelvis and affects 1 in 10 women according to the Endometriosis Global Forum.

Negative feelings about a partner or having experienced trauma can also lead to painful sex. We encourage you to speak to your own gynecologist about any intimate issue you may be experiencing.


 Recommended Reading

Millions of women suffer from sexual and pelvic pain and it’s a good idea to arm yourself with knowledge.   

One way to prepare yourself for Valentine’s Day is to become more acquainted with the causes of painful sex and treatment options in the book Healing Painful Sex by Deborah Coady MD and Nancy Fish.  Coady and Fish use their combined professional expertise as a doctor and therapist who specialize in sexual pain to provide readers with an understanding of its many causes and how to treat them, from both a physical and psychological standpoint.




Dryness and Discomfort

Friction caused by lack of vaginal lubrication can also be a factor when experiencing discomfort and pain.  

Studies by several schools of medicine have shown that approximately 19% of women aged 18-50 experience vaginal dryness, even before they enter menopause. Many women may experience vaginal dryness during sexual activities, and they aren’t sure how to get their vulva to a happy, healthy place.

Since Valentine’s Day is less than a month away, a good place to start your journey toward pain-free sex is to start using a topical cream that can alleviate and repair dryness, such as Julva Moisturing Anti-Aging Vulva Cream.

Julva is a great estrogen-free fix and offers an all-natural and pH balanced cream created by Triple Board-Certified Obstetrician Gynecologist, Dr. Anna Cabeca. Julva is especially helpful for the dry irritation that can occur with drops in estrogen, perimenopause, and menopause, in addition to providing moisturizing elements to increase overall comfort during sexual activities.

Using Julva Moisturing Anti-Aging Vulva Cream over the next month is a simple way to improve your vaginal elasticity while helping curb dryness and discomfort. 

Good Clean Love’s Restore pH Balancing and Moisturizing Vaginal Gel is also a great option to add to your intimate health regime. Their proprietary formula promotes the maintenance of healthy vaginal flora by mimicking the body’s natural pH levels, salt balance, and lactic acid produced by healthy lactobacilli, which can help relieve dryness and discomfort.


Lubricant = Good Planning

With Valentine’s Day on the horizon, now is also a good time to make sure you have plenty of high-quality lubrication on hand. Using lubrication during sexual activities can help eliminate pain caused by vaginal dryness.




One lubricant we recommend is Sliquid Naturals H2O, a clean and simple water-based personal lubricant formulated to emulate your body’s own natural lubrication. Sliquid uses plant cellulose as a thickening agent, instead of glycerin or other sugar derivatives like most other personal lubricants, making it less likely to disrupt vaginal pH or cause irritation. Their smooth formula is also 100% vegan without any parabens, which are chemical preservatives.

You can see all of our curated lubricants here. Our comprehensive selection includes water based, silicone, hybrid, and coconut oil-based options.


Check Back Often

Our Intimate Wellness Shop team will be providing additional information and recommendations leading up to Valentine’s Day so please check back each week.

If there is a topic that you would like our team to address, please let us know.  


Disclaimer: This is not medical advice, does not take the place of medical advice from your physician, and is not intended to treat or cure any disease. Patients should see a qualified medical provider for assessment and treatment.

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